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24
Aug

How to Fight (Part 3 of 3): What and How to Say It

Boxing GlovesHave you ever been so upset that you said something really stupid and as soon as it left your mouth you wish you could take it back?  Once it is out there, however, the damage is done.  There is no turning back once you let those words fly.  This is especially true in your marriage when emotions are heated and a fight is about to ensue.  So how do you train yourself not to get to this point?  What are some ways to guarantee this doesn’t happen again?  Here are a few Samurai tricks of the trade: Read more »

23
Aug

How to Fight (Part 2 of 3): The Low Road

Boxing GlovesThe Bible says, “Agree with your adversary quickly”; how much more should this be true with your spouse?  Learning how to take the low road of humility is an absolutely critical piece in learning how to stop the fight before it even begins. By swallowing your pride and agreeing with your spouse when you have a disagreement, you will save yourself a world of trouble… and save yourself countless unnecessary fights.  Here are a few ways to ensure that  you take the low road and reap the benefits of doing so: Read more »

20
Aug

How to Fight (Part 1 of 3): The Green Zone

Boxing GlovesEver had something that you needed to tell your spouse but you know that if you do, it is pretty much a 100% chance that an argument is going to break out?  How do you fight fair?  How do you get to the root of the issue without having an all out brawl?  What do you do when there is clearly a misunderstanding but it is a sensitive subject that you know is going to bring up some emotions and a potentially heated argument?  You enter into what my wife and I call “the green zone.” Read more »

15
Aug

Why Samurai?

SamuariMany people wonder why I chose “The Samurai Husband” for the title of this blog for Biblical marriage advice, so I decided to give the explanation in this post: Read more »

15
Aug

The 100/0 Principle

100_0I have often heard people say “Marriage is 50/50; do your part and you’ll do fine” or even take it a step further and say, “Marriage is not always 50/50.  Some days you will wake up and may have to give 90% and your spouse will give 10%.  Other days you may wake up and give 25% and your spouse will have to put in the 75%.”  And while this may sound good, there is a Kingdom alternative that Jesus espouses that moves beyond the traditional give-and-take approach to marriage.  Let me explain: Read more »

15
Aug

Take it Like a Man: The Art of Expiation

Cross Atonement ExpiationExpiation.  It’s a theological term most of us haven’t thought twice about before, but is one of the wonders of the cross.  This one word represents an important part of the power and beauty of what happened on the cross and why that was an eternally altering event in history.  It is something that every husband should know inside out if he wants to love his wife as Christ loved the church.  So, what is expiation and why does it matter to you as a husband?  Well, keep reading… Read more »