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Defining Masculinity

LionThere’s been a lot of press around Mark Driscoll lately and the resurfacing of some of his comments about the weak nature of men in America, particularly in the church.  While I do not agree with his stance, I do want to approach the critical question he poses: what does a man who is following Jesus called to look and act like?  Does he become a tame, domesticated man like Driscoll believes most of the church has become?  Or does he have to be an angry Christian with machismo tendencies?  Like most things, what gets the press are the polarized opinions of a small few.  I by no means think my thoughts are the perfect middle, but I want to throw in a few thoughts on what manhood looks like for those trying to follow Jesus.

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Put Your Kids Second

familySo I’m a relatively new dad.  I have a beautiful two year old whom my wife and I love and adore more than anything in this world.  And that’s the problem sometimes.  It is so easy for parents to get wrapped up into the lives of their children and prioritize them over all else.  What’s wrong with that some of you may ask?

Everything.  And here’s why.

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When the Romance Dies… (Part 2/2)

Dead Rose Marriage and RomancePart 1 was the theory. Part 2 of “When the Romance Dies” is the post with practical examples to help reignite passion.  Here are some powerful ways for men to rekindle the romance in their marriage that aren’t ridiculous hallmark card suggestions designed for women…

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24
Sep

Defining Masculinity

LionThere’s been a lot of press around Mark Driscoll lately and the resurfacing of some of his comments about the weak nature of men in America, particularly in the church.  While I do not agree with his stance, I do want to approach the critical question he poses: what does a man who is following Jesus called to look and act like?  Does he become a tame, domesticated man like Driscoll believes most of the church has become?  Or does he have to be an angry Christian with machismo tendencies?  Like most things, what gets the press are the polarized opinions of a small few.  I by no means think my thoughts are the perfect middle, but I want to throw in a few thoughts on what manhood looks like for those trying to follow Jesus. Read more

16
Apr

Put Your Kids Second

familySo I’m a relatively new dad.  I have a beautiful two year old whom my wife and I love and adore more than anything in this world.  And that’s the problem sometimes.  It is so easy for parents to get wrapped up into the lives of their children and prioritize them over all else.  What’s wrong with that some of you may ask?

Everything.  And here’s why. Read more

12
Feb

When the Romance Dies… (Part 2/2)

Dead Rose Marriage and RomancePart 1 was the theory. Part 2 of “When the Romance Dies” is the post with practical examples to help reignite passion.  Here are some powerful ways for men to rekindle the romance in their marriage that aren’t ridiculous hallmark card suggestions designed for women… Read more

20
Jan

When the Romance Dies… (Part 1/2)

Dead Rose Marriage and RomanceIn most marriages, the more time a couple is married seems to be directly proportional to the more passionless the marriage.  Like all things, if left to its own devices, there is going to be a natural deterioration and marriage (especially romance) is no different.  There are, however, ways to fight for your marriage and ensure that the flame never dies, and I’m going to speak to a few of those in this two part series… Read more »

30
Dec

The Voices In Your Head

Microphone in FistDo you ever hear voices in your head?  Those subtle but significant whispers can often act as the rudder of your martial ship if you allow them to.  A lot of times in a marriage, these voices have a strong marital influence, and you don’t even realize that they are there.  In fact, if you don’t pay attention, you won’t even realize whose voices they are… and this can be extremely dangerous.  Although if you have the right voices, then you could never be in a better spot marriage-wise.  So what voices are we talking about and how do we determine who gets a say? Read more »

25
Nov

Daddy Issues (and How Not to Repeat Them)

Dad HandsPart of being a good husband is intrinsically tied to being a good dad (if you have kids). You hear a lot about deadbeat dads and dads who don’t do enough for their family. In fact, dads get a lot of bad press. So I want to talk to you today about what it means to be a good dad and three seemingly small but massively important things to consider in this pursuit:

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8
Nov

A Samurai Guide to Better Sex

A Samurai Guide to Better SexSex.  If you are a man, then you have probably thought about sex in the past 30 minutes.  And if you are a husband (and honest), then you are probably wanting more sex in your marriage.   If you are like a lot of other married men, then you might have questions about why your wife doesn’t want it as bad or as often as you do.  Now I know a lot of people have a lot to say on this subject, but I am going to take a stab at this and hopefully give you a different angle that will help take your sex life up a notch.  Here are a few tips that I want to share that will help you make this a reality… Read more »

2
Nov

Marriage and Submission (Part 2/2)

Chess: Husband and Wife Submission Submission.  We started going there with the last post.  This post, we are going to finish up my thoughts on what Biblical submission looks like from the husband’s perspective. Read more »

27
Oct

Marriage and Submission (Part 1/2)

Chess: Husband and Wife Submission Submission.  Are we going to go there?  Why yes, yes we are.  Hope you are ready for this two part series as I tread on some dangerous territory, especially as a male author… Read more »

21
Oct

Marriage Is Not About Your Happiness (Part 3/3)

Ephesians 5 Husband and Wife SubmissionYou remember those WWJD bracelets?  Well I am not saying go out and buy one, but burn that into your mind and make that your mantra when it comes to making decisions as a husband.  Just remember: it’s not about you.  That simple shift will revolutionize the way you view your marriage and role in it.  Jesus was a servant king.  He did not come to be served, but to serve and give His life.[1]  That is the call of a husband to his wife.  It’s not about you.

The crazy thing is that it isn’t about your wife either.  It’s all about Jesus. Read more »