There’s been a lot of press around Mark Driscoll lately and the resurfacing of some of his comments about the weak nature of men in America, particularly in the church. While I do not agree with his stance, I do want to approach the critical question he poses: what does a man who is following Jesus called to look and act like? Does he become a tame, domesticated man like Driscoll believes most of the church has become? Or does he have to be an angry Christian with machismo tendencies? Like most things, what gets the press are the polarized opinions of a small few. I by no means think my thoughts are the perfect middle, but I want to throw in a few thoughts on what manhood looks like for those trying to follow Jesus. Read more
So I’m a relatively new dad. I have a beautiful two year old whom my wife and I love and adore more than anything in this world. And that’s the problem sometimes. It is so easy for parents to get wrapped up into the lives of their children and prioritize them over all else. What’s wrong with that some of you may ask?
Everything. And here’s why. Read more
Part 1 was the theory. Part 2 of “When the Romance Dies” is the post with practical examples to help reignite passion. Here are some powerful ways for men to rekindle the romance in their marriage that aren’t ridiculous hallmark card suggestions designed for women… Read more
In most marriages, the more time a couple is married seems to be directly proportional to the more passionless the marriage. Like all things, if left to its own devices, there is going to be a natural deterioration and marriage (especially romance) is no different. There are, however, ways to fight for your marriage and ensure that the flame never dies, and I’m going to speak to a few of those in this two part series… Read more
Do you ever hear voices in your head? Those subtle but significant whispers can often act as the rudder of your martial ship if you allow them to. A lot of times in a marriage, these voices have a strong marital influence, and you don’t even realize that they are there. In fact, if you don’t pay attention, you won’t even realize whose voices they are… and this can be extremely dangerous. Although if you have the right voices, then you could never be in a better spot marriage-wise. So what voices are we talking about and how do we determine who gets a say? Read more
Sex. If you are a man, then you have probably thought about sex in the past 30 minutes. And if you are a husband (and honest), then you are probably wanting more sex in your marriage. If you are like a lot of other married men, then you might have questions about why your wife doesn’t want it as bad or as often as you do. Now I know a lot of people have a lot to say on this subject, but I am going to take a stab at this and hopefully give you a different angle that will help take your sex life up a notch. Here are a few tips that I want to share that will help you make this a reality… Read more
You remember those WWJD bracelets? Well I am not saying go out and buy one, but burn that into your mind and make that your mantra when it comes to making decisions as a husband. Just remember: it’s not about you. That simple shift will revolutionize the way you view your marriage and role in it. Jesus was a servant king. He did not come to be served, but to serve and give His life. That is the call of a husband to his wife. It’s not about you.
The crazy thing is that it isn’t about your wife either. It’s all about Jesus. Read more
Have you ever asked people what they think the purpose of marriage is? You may be surprised at what kind of answers you get. Look it up on a google search and you find all kinds of answers: “tax breaks”, “to raise a family”, “stability”, and “to keep divorce attorneys making triple digits” are just a few of the answers you will actually find! One (legitimate) survey was done by the Pew Research Center in July of 2007 that polled over 2,000 random selected participants in the United States and asked them a series of questions about marriage. Do you know what the #1 answer was for what these randomly selected people was when they asked what the purpose of marriage was? Read more