When the Romance Dies… (Part 1/2)

When the romance dies

In most marriages, the more time a couple is married seems to be directly proportional to the more passionless the marriage.  Like all things, if left to its own devices, there is going to be a natural deterioration and marriage (especially romance) is no different.  There are, however, ways to fight for your marriage and ensure that the flame never dies, and I’m going to speak to a few of those in this two part series…

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A Samurai Guide to Better Sex

guide to better sex

Sex.  If you are a man, then you have probably thought about sex in the past 30 minutes.  And if you are a husband (and honest), then you are probably wanting more sex in your marriage.   If you are like a lot of other married men, then you might have questions about why your wife doesn’t want it as bad or as often as you do.  Now I know a lot of people have a lot to say on this subject, but I am going to take a stab at this and hopefully give you a different angle that will help take your sex life up a notch.  Here are a few tips that I want to share that will help you make this a reality…

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Marriage Is Not About Your Happiness (Part 3/3)

marriage is not about your happiness

You remember those WWJD bracelets?  Well I am not saying go out and buy one, but burn that into your mind and make that your mantra when it comes to making decisions as a husband.  Just remember: it’s not about you.  That simple shift will revolutionize the way you view your marriage and role in it.  Jesus was a servant king.  He did not come to be served, but to serve and give His life.[1]  That is the call of a husband to his wife.  It’s not about you.

The crazy thing is that it isn’t about your wife either.  It’s all about Jesus.

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A Base Hit is Better Than a Home Run

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Babe Ruth is a legend.   He has hit more home runs than anyone else in history behind Hank Aaron and Barry Bonds*.   All three players are notorious for slamming balls out of the park… but are just as notorious for striking out.   They are 1, 2, and 3 all-time for HRs, but are also ranked 44, 87, and 104 as all time strike-out leaders.  Fact: When you swing for the fences all the time, you are going to strike out more often.  Anyone who plays baseball knows that a player who can consistently get on base is better for the team than a player who hits the occasional home run.   The same principle is true in marriage: a husband that intentionally makes small, daily deposits in his marriage does more for his marriage than the husband who sweeps his wife off her feet with epically romantic get-aways twice a year… yet neglects the day to day investments.  With that in mind, here are 10 ways to get on base that you can do this week:

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